I am Scared. Yes I am

Are we all scared? I am.

 A girl's wedding is going on next to my place, aged below 18 years from a humble background. 

She was so happy and hopeful of a positive future that while I went to meet her, she asked her parents to buy her a microwave for her new kitchen. 

For a moment I was awakened by the fact that I should stop her from getting married or at least inform her about the problems she can have because of her early marriage. But, suddenly the news of a woman's arms being cut for the FIR she lodged about a 'Child Marriage' near her village struck me. 

Questions, faces of men and women, society flashed in front of me. I realised that I can't do anything as I was alone. The India government, media is doing its bit. But I could not. Why? 

The reality is I was scared. Scared of the society, scared of the people who think marrying their daughters off early is good for them. 

Many girls are dying because of early pregnancies but some people are not worried and scared about these issues. It can be anyone's daughter or sister who is married at an early age. I don't blame the girl who is happy today on her marriage, she is getting all the attention, it is her D Day but her family, parents, relatives should have thought of the risk which she will carry with her. 

"KYA FAYDA USE PADHAKAR, BYAH HI TO KARNA HAI" USE AUR PHIR BACHHE SAMBHALNE HAIN" 

THIS THINKING STILL PERSISTS I AM A WITNESS OF IT. 

Here still women are uneducated, still they cover they wear veils in front of men, still they think getting the beating from the husband is a part of marriage, not wrong, still women think men enjoying physical relationships with other women is "Okay" because he is a "MAN" and when I asked one of the women, if she is involved in such an activity, she says:

"My husband will shoo me off as this is immoral."

 So, we have different standards based on gender and such things still exist. I am not being pessimistic, I know the change is coming but I can't see it in some places.

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WOMAN

Some women are strong,
some weak;
Wish the weak become stronger
All come together,
Show the women's power.

Fight for the freedom,
Don't let anyone put you in the cage forever.
Open up your wings
And fly together
High and higher

Believe in yourself
and in your dreams
Realize the power, Oh Woman!
It lies within you and me,
change the world.

Why Oh why!
Oh Mother, Oh Wife,
You forget about your rights
When you fulfil all your duties
Why do you sacrifice
and repent it later?

God has made you
capable of bringing
life on this earth;
Don't just watch
or bear the torture,
speak up for yourself
and stand for the women
always and forever.

One of the confronted stark realities of life

COULD I DO ANYTHING MORE THAN FEELING BAD ????FOR THE OLD MAN WHO WAS TRYING TO CROSS THE ROAD SITTING ON A PLANK MOVING ON WHEELS BECAUSE HE HAD NO FEET. I WAS SITTING IN MY CAR AND  THE TRAFFIC PASSING BY SEEMED CRUEL TO ME.
WHEN I LOOKED AT THIS MAN I COULDN'T TAKE MY EYES OFF, MYRIAD THOUGHTS COMING IN MY MIND...WILL HE ABLE TO CROSS THE ROAD OR WILL HE  BE CRUSHED UNDER SOME GIANT VEHICLE...
SYMPATHY..SADNESS..THAT'S IT!
AUR KYA KAR SAKTI THI MAIN..
I WAS THINKING & still Iam ..ABOUT THE REASONS FOR HIS POOR CONDITION
HIS KARMA?
GOD'S INJUSTICE?
OR WHAT?.

Growth

We Born

We Grow

When growing

the innocence crumples like a dry leaf

We Learn.

the ways of the world.

We start feeling

most of the time the heart making us weak..

??

We Think

Making us manipulative

?

We Love

Giving us all the things in the world

sorrows and joys.

We Hate

making us negative

When Born

We most innocent

Then Why do we Grow?

To entangle our souls

to this not so real world?

LOVE

lonely is the day

lonely is the night

lonely is me

lonely are you

love is the most

check check

when two hearts long

for each other's love

longing is the sweetest

so is the moment

when two hearts twine

you pine and twine

this is the beauty of love!

WE

Sitting in the porch..

Looking at each other

We gazed at the sky..

Then you gave me that look..

The look..

As if you seeing me through..

I got a bit nervous..

But I could see the spark in your eyes….

In your eyes..

I look at the stars which were

Incomparable to the ones

In your eyes..in your eyes..

The story has just begun

We have just got the pen and paper

To write ‘OUR’ lives

And its not about "YOU" and "ME"

…not  just about "YOU" and "ME."

CROSS THE BORDERS

cross the borders

he lives in pain

cross the borders

she lives in pain

companions of

he and she

are VAIN and PAIN

He and She couldn't become WE

as BORDERS between....

IF smoking is injurious, it is for everyone.

Jagruti- The Awakening: IF smoking is injurious, it is for everyone.

IF SMOKING IS INJURIOUS, IT IS FOR EVERYONE

I had taken this picture zooming my camera from my window seat in a train near Agra Cantt. station while travelling back from Kota. What was going through my mind at that point of time was the nonchalance of that unknown woman. She was lighting her bidi, sitting outside her home. But then what made me click the picture was the thing which upsets me; targetting the youth, the hypocritical behaviour of people who have a problem if the young are smoking and say 'its okay' when they smoke. Now this woman in the picture is not young and urban or a woman living independently on her own. So don't just target the young and independent for smoking.

If smoking is an issue , don't say its bad when a young woman or a young man smokes. One cannot say that 'these young women are into smoking because they are living alone, they have money to spend and noone to stop.' This may be the reason, but then what is the reason for the woman smoking in the picture?

Smoking is injurious for everyone's health, whether it is a man or a woman, a teenage or an old person and its better not to target any one segment or one particular gender.

This is my opinion which may be liked or disliked.

A TESTIMONIAL BY RADHIKA DEDICATED TO ME :)

Radhika..she's a junior to me in college and a very nice friend. Radhika wrote a testimonial for me on 11.5.09 on Orkut..I wanted to share it on my blog so I am posting it  :)

Radhikaa writes-

surprise..?

i kno.. even i am.. but 2day my sentiments jus forcd me 2 do dis.. cnt 4gt da smile u had 2day.. that remindd me of all gud tyms we hav had 2gethr.. u hav alwz actd as a big sistr n hav been a support n bad tyms. di i alwz wondrd dat its so good to hav an older sibling n by ur cumin da space was taken .. im not gud at expressing feelings not at all.. nor can i explain hw i feel 2day (leme nt say here y).. but i do realise ur worth..

2day whn i recaall da ttyms 2gther.. whethr it be coffees.. golgappas.. maggie.. aloochat.. bhelpuri..(basically eating me being a big foodie).. how to 4gt ur golas n their sizes n da amount of sharbat in em.. wana tell u whateva little or more it was.. its precious n wud b.. discussing on so many things wid u.. singing on da top of my voice on da terrace when i felt low.. sheenu's silent smiles dat told us we ar mad.. boasting of having grt reponisbilty being da older children in our house.. i making ur fun on account of u been thrown out of da room.. everything..everything that we did n still do.. is remarkable..

i wish 4 all gud things in ur life.. my da spark in ur eye last 24ever.. luv u..

Silence

Up all night

I sat reading and humming

Lingering on the thought I should not be

musing.


Long silences I want to share

not the crap talk.

Again I expect what I should not be

thinking.


The outings and parties

I've got all over 'em

coz it gave nothing.


What I was expecting

I know I should not have expected.

A TESTIMONIAL PENNED BY NISHANT ARORA ..FOR ME :)

http://www.orkut.co.in/Main#Profile.aspx?uid=9717143607403941040
Its really difficult to write for sum1 you have been realy close to and then part away
for a long long time.

As a frnd, she is the best 1 can have. She's always dere whenever required [I remember
when u were getting late at night to go to bed coz u had to get up early in the morning but
u stayed online for sum more time on my request] and to be precise a rare find (honestly).
Beauty with the extraordinary brains,yes she is a very very intelligent gal, has always
remembered her friends although she moved away quite a long time ago..She can read minds..thats what i think...... n ofcourse she's a person wid whom anybdy can talk abt any damn thng..

Hey pal, njoy life to the fullest and remember:
Whenever there is a complain from sum1 widout ur fault it is simply out of jealousy nd jealousy always cums wen u outcast sum1, so just chill and remember that u have outwitted sum1 and moved ahead in life with success as ur companion...
MMMM..i love your scraps.

Always there for u whenever u need me.

A TESTIMONIAL I WROTE FOR NISHANT ARORA

Hey ppl so I am writing this for a classmate of mine years back with me in school. Well we got in touch after years here on Orkut so cheers to Orkut for that. Ok so now telling you about Nishant. Well I am being nostalgic now. I remembr this guy was a very quiet one, not mixing up with everyone, quite observant I must say. He was an introvert.

His eyes are very mysterious, Imust say this. You do not believe me..go check him out then. Lol. You can not make out what is going on in his mind. Well this is what i can reveal out of this guy when I bank on my memory.

Hey enjoy your life to the fullest..patani agla janam mile naa mile..jo karna hai kar n I wish success for you in life..so rock it man

ZARRE ZARRE MEIN USI KA NOOR HAI

Zarre zarre mein usi ka noor hai

Jhaank khun mein wo na tujhse door hai

Ishq hai usse to sabse ishq kar

Ishq hai usse to sabse ishq kar

Is abaadat ka yehi dastoor hai

Is mein us mein aur us mein hai wohi

Is mein us mein aur us mein hai wohi

Yaar mera har taraf bharpoor hai

This is a beautiful piece of poetry which I heard in the movie DELHI 6. The words have really touched me , inspired me and I personally find them thought - provoking. So felt like publishing it on my blog.

I hope my next post reaches here soon.

Till then cheers!