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Wednesday 25 April 2012

I am Scared. Yes I am

Are we all scared? I am.
 A girl's wedding is going on next to my place, aged below 18 years from a humble background. 
She was so happy and hopeful of a positive future that while I went to meet her, she asked her parents to buy her a microwave for her new kitchen. 
For a moment I was awakened by the fact that I should stop her from getting married or at least inform her about the problems she can have because of her early marriage. But, suddenly the news of a woman's arms being cut for the FIR she lodged about a 'Child Marriage' near her village struck me. 
Questions, faces of men and women, society flashed in front of me. I realised that I can't do anything as I was alone. The India government, media is doing its bit. But I could not. Why? 
The reality is I was scared. Scared of the society, scared of the people who think marrying their daughters off early is good for them. 
Many girls are dying because of early pregnancies but some people are not worried and scared about these issues. It can be anyone's daughter or sister who is married at an early age. I don't blame the girl who is happy today on her marriage, she is getting all the attention, it is her D Day but her family, parents, relatives should have thought of the risk which she will carry with her. 
"KYA FAYDA USE PADHAKAR, BYAH HI TO KARNA HAI" USE AUR PHIR BACHHE SAMBHALNE HAIN" 
THIS THINKING STILL PERSISTS I AM A WITNESS OF IT. 
Here still women are uneducated, still they cover they wear veils in front of men, still they think getting the beating from the husband is a part of marriage, not wrong, still women think men enjoying physical relationships with other women is "Okay" because he is a "MAN" and when I asked one of the women, if she is involved in such an activity, she says:
"My husband will shoo me off as this is immoral."
 So, we have different standards based on gender and such things still exist. I am not being pessimistic, I know the change is coming but I can't see it in some places.

5 comments:

Tushar Mangl said...

tough is the world in which we live

Unknown said...

MA'AM ITS TRUTH ALL OVER THE WORLD .. NO ONE CAN CHANGE IT INDIVIDUALLY , WE HAVE TO GO FOR IT TOGETHER .. OTHER THAN ITS NOT POSSIBLE ....

shaista dhanda said...

Kapil, I appreciate such an educated and mature comment coming from your side.Thank you. I hope you bring a change some day.

Unknown said...

THANX MA'AM .... THE CREDIT GOES TO U ..IT'S ONE OF THE PART OF YOUR TEACHINGS ONLY.

Anonymous said...

Hey!!
What an interesting blog!! :)

About the child marriage, and I know you're not being pessimistic, but y'know, things are not always all bad, maybe that girl ended up with a good husband... and to be honest, if she is in a family with a mindset of - "Why get her educated?" then probably she is better off with her husband..?